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So I’ll share some things that I’ve learned throughout the years.
You’ll always be “too _____ ” or “not enough ______” for someone.
It really sucks when that someone is a member of your own family, a close longtime friend, a current paramour. That said, there are ways to get a grip so that you don’t feel worse.
You must NOT take anything personally.
I can’t say that enough times! What other people do and think is nothing that you have any particular control over. The sooner I accepted this, the better I felt. You’re not a blank screen for others to project their movies upon. Some people are horror movies!
Your thoughts and feelings are yours, even if you can’t control them.
They belong to you, yet they aren’t right or wrong, in my opinion. What IS right and wrong are your actions. You can control them! I tell myself this at least a dozen times per day.
No matter what I think I want to do to rectify any perceived slight, it’s not worth it. Be the better person and move on. Moving on isn’t a sign of weakness or defeat, it’s honoring yourself so that you don’t get enmeshed with pointless drama in the future.
When you’re feeling bummed out, remember that it’s a temporary feeling, however intense.
Unfortunately, mental illness doesn’t run in my family, it f*cking gallops. I feel fortunate to only have ADHD, as there’s much worse out there.
That said, what was going on with my relatives was much louder and dramatic than what was going on with me. I slipped through the cracks in terms of getting early help for my ever growing inattention and hyperactivity.
It’s never too late!
Yup, it’s never too late to be the person that you’re meant to be, even if that’s a work in progress. Sometimes the only thing that you can do is just breathe, and if that’s all that you did today, it’s enough. Speaking of enough…
You’re enough just as you are.
FOMO, pretty Instagram feeds (with purchased followers!) tailored to your interests, whatever your parents expect you to be, what your frenemies are up to, it’s too easy to get wrapped up in all of this bs. Nothing good ever comes from it, trust me.
You don’t need to rack up more student loan debt, unless that’s really your thing. Hey, it’s all good, but nowadays there are so many resources out there that I’m astounded.
From online forums to daily motivational apps to amazing audiobooks that you can check out for free at your local library, there’s a lot that you can do to change your perspective.
There are very helpful videos on YouTube that have been
A blog post that is a MUST READ is by Rosalind Robertson aka the DIY Couturier. Check out 21 Tips to Keep Your Shit Together When You’re Depressed.
All of the tips are meaningful, and my favorite is #13:
Limit your time with people who drain you. You know who they are. Often you don’t have a choice – but you can put the meter on. And, subsequently, be aware of what you’re asking of those close to you.
I’m going to have a lot more to share as I go along, but these are some thoughts I quickly typed last night!