I’d like for you to do an important exercise with me before going on your next shopping trip!
I’m going to tell you what to say when you talk to yourself.
Please trust me on this but more importantly, trust your instincts!
I promise I won’t steer you off-course. I want you to succeed in this endeavor and have fun in the process.
Life’s too short to waste your time
on in anything you don’t feel is absolutely fabulous. Don’t do it, don’t buy it, don’t keep it if it’s not exquisite.
Say it with me, friends.
If it isn’t exquisite, GET RID OF IT!
This is my constant life motto and it truly does apply to everything.
You feel way more than you think about fashion and style. If it doesn’t feel good, don’t think about it anymore. Flip it, give it away, donate it. Watch Marie Kondo on Netflix if you need to. If it doesn’t spark joy, thank the item for its service and be done with it.
When you gaze into your
abyss wardrobe, what do you see? I’m going to ask you to cast a critical eye, but please, not on yourself.
Do it with the clothes and accessories you already have.
What is the predominant color family of most of your items? How many bags do you have of “projects”?
This is anything you’re not wearing or potentially flipping for profit or giving away to charity
What have you forgotten about because it’s been stowed away for so long?
Think about all of the subscriptions that you have with these issues, whether the items have missing and loose buttons, extreme wash wear, stains, tears, snags, and beyond.
Don’t forget to include what doesn’t fit, even the pretty pieces you can barely squeeze into. Be honest with yourself, are you REALLY going to wear it again? Unless it’s a totally important designer, chances are that you can reacquire the item down the road.
Gentleman friends, do you reach for the same jeans, t-shirt, or coat? What color, texture, and material are they? Listen to Tom Ford, I implore you.
What about workout wear? What makes you feel good?
I have a magnificent coalition of fabulous people I’ve assembled, dead and alive. They’re mostly reliable and ready to give me input and perspective.
I’m usually solo on my shopping excursions as I live further away from many friends and family. So then who’s going to help me out?
I’m 100% not immune to making the wrong purchases myself! I constantly revisit everything in my closet and in my virtual stores.
My blunders have happened much less often since I’ve enlisted the help of my imaginary style coalition.
Whether I’m sorting items at home or am about to purchase new-to-me goodies, I think of what my imaginary stylish friends would tell me.
Photo credit J. David McKenney
How exquisite is this Pidgin doll tribute to Grace Jones?!? My imaginary fashion coalition usually includes her, John Waters, the Marchesa Luisa Casati, Alexander McQueen, Oscar Wilde, and Dolly Parton.
My dad sent me an Alexander McQueen skull scarf and I should take a picture of it.
I’ve imagined Alexander McQueen telling me this dress (this one is from his diffusion line with Target from 10 years ago) went well with my hair. Sometimes I imagine him rolling his eyes at me.
I also daydream that Grace is towering next to me, wildly shaking her head no when I consider a hat purchase.
When I’m down to the wire and need to make a fast decision, I imagine what each of these marvelous people would say to me.
Would they let me purchase an item I’m trying on? Would they give it to their mom, dad, or sister?
If I could hear the eccentric Marchesa Casati’s speaking voice, I imagine that she’d disapprove of me looking at overpriced Forever 21 dresses at Goodwill. Seriously, some of the items are priced higher than their original fast fashion prices.
I implore you to assemble your very own imaginary fashion coalition and please include me, if you like. The possibilities are endless!
I promise I won’t be rude and reproachful. I do reserve the right to give you some major side eye if you tell yourself that you can settle and wear unflattering clothes.
One of my friends used to cut the size tags from her clothing because the made up numbers used to greatly bother her. And she would fit in most size 2-4’s!
Sizes are just numbers and have no value as to your strength, character, and compassion.
At this point, we’re in 2019 and the numbers on a size tag are a mere guideline, as the range of sizes for a 2, for example, have wildly different measurements. I’ve even noticed this with men’s jeans with the waist, and the inseam. It varies greatly depending on the designer.
The fashion industry is both glamorous yet is extraordinarily ugly at the same time.
This is a brilliant quote I saw on Pinterest.
Your imaginary fashion coalition can give you a mood boost and a shot of truth when you need it.
Feel free to tell me who you choose for your own personal coalition and why. I’d love to hear about it soon!
Have a beautiful day!